Topic of the Week: Emotional Sobriety

2021.10.18 06:50 ThePower0faPause Topic of the Week: Emotional Sobriety

This week's topic is "emotional sobriety" with u/serenity8.
Hi! I'm u/serenity8 and I'm a recovered codependent.
Before I worked the 12 steps for recovery from codependency, I had been living an emotionally immature life, all the while convinced I was actually more mature than those around me. The idea of my superior maturity was not reality. Bill Wilson mentions in his A.A. Grapevine article “The Next Frontier: Emotional Sobriety”, that “Those adolescent urges that so many of us have for top approval, perfect security, and perfect romance - urges quite appropriate to age seventeen - prove to be an impossible way of life when we are at age 47 or 57.” These adolescent urges he refers to raged on in me, full-throttle, well past my adolescence, and still rear their ravenous heads from time to time in my recovered life.
I was convinced from the time I was a very small child that I needed all of those things to be happy, to be ok. I was obsessed with approval, praise, validation. I needed to be the center of attention. I needed others to be impressed with me. I needed to set myself apart, be better than others. My need for “perfect security” showed up in my idea that I had been hurt enough - thank you very much! - and needed to get “bad things” to stop happening to me so I could have time to heal, to be ok.
The original 12-step text states on page 98 (The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous):
“He clamors for this or that, claiming he cannot master alcohol until his material needs are cared for. Nonsense. Some of us have taken very hard knocks to learn this truth: Job or no job - wife or no wife - we simply do not stop drinking so long as we place dependence upon other people ahead of dependence on God.”
— Alcoholics Anonymous, 4th Edition by A.A. World Services Inc.
One of the wonderful things I’ve had the honor and privilege to learn through working the 12 Steps has been that I don’t actually know what I need! I’ve been able to learn to let go of the crazy extremities of those “adolescent urges” Bill refers to, and relax into trusting God to provide whatever experiences and circumstances I need to grow spiritually. My sponsor has often told me, “God has already given you everything you need in this moment,” and it’s become a beloved mantra of mine.
I find more and more that when I throw myself into Step 12, focus on freely giving the beautiful recovery that I’ve been freely given, everything I TRULY need comes to me, in perfect time, in perfect ways. I would’ve never believed it was possible, but the more patient I am, and the more I trust and rely on God, the more I experience that God “does for [me] what [I] cannot do for [myself]” (p. 70-71).
Would love to hear others' experiences with emotional sobriety and how that shows up in your stepwork.
Suggested guidelines for sharing:
As you share your experience and strength, please also share your hope. Please confine your sharing to your experience with the disease of codependency, the solution offered by the stepwork, and your own recovery from the disease, rather than just the events of the day or week. If you are having difficulties, share how you use the stepwork to deal with them.
Feedback, crosstalk, and advice giving are discouraged here. Cross talk on posts is giving advice to others who have already shared or speaking directly to another person rather than to the group. Asking clarifying questions is welcomed.
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2021.10.18 06:50 MegaMaxMellon7778 why is the Clovis bray lab on Europa so... pristine?

it has no right to be! take a look at the cosmodrome, the moon settlements, ishtar academy, and the titan archology, they're all beaten up, withered away, taken over by the elements for centuries, with only tiny pockets untouched by the rot, yet we have the bray labs which look completely unntouched! no ice, no glacial tearings, and especially no rusting, what's going on here?!
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2021.10.18 06:50 Gullible-Payment-696 Telegram
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2021.10.18 06:50 Dogecoinmasterz Coins

Who else here is in other shit coins like kisha inu and doge
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2021.10.18 06:50 Beo420 Everest Coin launched Sept. 21st, 40k MC to an ATH of over 6mil MC in just days 🤑! Climbing to 10 Mil MC! Listed on CMC, CG, Coinsbit (CEX), two more CEXs in the works. Real world partnerships with Nascar, MazerGaming, and a TBA Guinness record holding climber. This is BIG time guys go DYOR! 🔥

Build, hunt, farm, fight, shop for and earn gear, but most importantly climb your way up Mount Everest. Overcome the obstacles of weather, wildlife, elevation, and other dangers on your treacherous journey to the summit of the greatest mountain on Earth!
NFT play to earn GameFi project Everest Coin, has been non-stop climbing the mountains of its BSC chart since launch. Players of the Everest game will be able to earn NFT rewards as well as $EVCOIN. Contract security is top notch, with a Solidity Finance audit done prior to launch, an incoming second audit with TechRate, and a 100 year locked liquidity! This is a truly hard working team, involved directly with the community in Telegram and Twitter daily. Total transparency and frequent updates from the developers, animated game character teasers already circulating, a demo around the corner for the community to see, it's obvious they are moving forward with real world progress as quickly as the chart has been moving upwards! 📈
Everest Coin has multiple press releases out already. Listed on CMC & CG, both were fast tracked right after launch. Just listed on Coinsbit a couple days ago, and already there are talks in the works with two other exchanges! Everest Coin has a partnership with NASCAR driver Alex Labbe (part of DGM Racing) who will be driving a fully decked out Everest Coin car in front of millions of people live and televised (October 23rd Kansas Speedway!). Mazer Gaming leaped at the opportunity to partner with Everest Coin as well, and are ready to share the project with the over 1 million gamers and streamers in their network. A special to be announced Guinness record holder will be partnering with Everest Coin as well, all we can say is that he shares a similar interest in climbing the same peak! When $EVCOIN hits 10 Mil MC there will be another special partnership announcement by the team, and we're not far away! Twitter and Telegram are absolutely on fire, the website and project goals are phenomenal, load your bags now for real 🚀
They're utilizing an innovative lottery system the team developed. Investors who buy a minimum of 0.2 BNB directly after a sell, earns an entry into a lottery raffle for $1000. This happens every single week, with one winner already receiving $1000 USDT on Saturday September 25th (live streamed by UpNextCrypto), 2 winners received #1000 USDT on Saturday October 2nd, etc.! Plans for bigger lotteries as volume increases 🤑
Everest Coin gave away 500 rare Yeti NFTs (1500 minted total) to those who bought at least 0.5 BNB after each of the the previous lottery announcements! If playing the game wasn't already rewarding enough to begin with, players will be able to RENT OUT certain NFTs (Like the Yeti) to other players in the game, earning passive income even when they're offline. Guys this is a HUGE NFT P2E game that just might be the next Axie Infinity! First person to make it to the top of the mountain will be receiving a secret prize from the Everest Coin team, but you'll have to beat me to it 💪
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2021.10.18 06:50 RealisticBar7194 How much chlorine and ammonia would it take to fill up an entire apartment with chloramine gas?

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2021.10.18 06:50 brandonisanidiot What is the first episode of Drag Race you ever watched?

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2021.10.18 06:50 Throwaway33483952 What is the communities view about acetycholine playing a role in PSSD?

I’ve been doing some reading and I realize that Choline appears to be one of the only neurotransmitters that cannot be upregulated using many medications or supplements as pretty much all ADs on the market are acetylcholine antagonists and the few supplements that people do use and see results seem to have some cholinergic affects. IE. inositol (sometimes mixed with choline), Ginko, etc.
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2021.10.18 06:50 bullishbae Help! What does this mean?

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2021.10.18 06:50 Chloeburbank1234 We spent the late nights making things right between us

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2021.10.18 06:50 Er3st0r Is wardstone underrated or bad?

I basically never see vigilant wardstone purchased ever in a lot of the games that I play in around about gold/silver. But when I look at the stats that it gives and the extra wards that you can place at a time, it actually looks like a pretty good item to buy maybe after a mythic. The extra control wards that can be carried are a nice touch too.
Does nobody buy this item because of an underlying reason I haven't found, or is it because nobody really thinks about buying it?
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2021.10.18 06:50 SergeiSiloskev My silly thinking

“Ethics, in of themselves are unethical. What is a law without enforcement? What is a country without its people. One trail of glory and a good lie can set the world on fire. Ethics are only enforced by the lucky and intuitive people, that win. The losers will suffer more than their opposition.” -Sergei
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2021.10.18 06:50 lkrueger666 Will TS dominate the next DPC?

All credit to BTS for winning TI10, but I felt that they were underestimated by the other teams. I think that some teams, like LGD, not performed as best as they could, specially regarding to draft. Do you think that TS will continue to dominate now that they will be deeply analysed by the other teams?
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2021.10.18 06:50 lakee9353 Solutions to California DMW fees

Looks like I lucked out. Friend of mine is a property owner and has a truck that was abandoned on the property. I put in about 5 hours of work and drove it for the first time in 18 years. Solid rig. Since it's been parked they just stopped registering it, last time in 2003. It's 1750$ in fees. Only 200$ of parts to bring back to the road. I was wondering if there any any lien sale or abandoned vehicle loopholes to avoid said fees. Making this rig worth the effort. I'm getting more info tomorrow. Please shoot some ideas to bring this old truck back on the road
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2021.10.18 06:50 DTPToken Jeepers! Getting Karma in Cardano Reddit is like pulling teeth.

Jeepers! Getting Karma in Cardano Reddit is like pulling teeth. Anyone want to help me out with some Karma? I'm just trying to get some Voting discussion started and Automoderator HATES me lol.
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2021.10.18 06:50 TheBestPartylizard OH. MY. GOD.

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2021.10.18 06:50 More-Carpenter-1213 Knee pain

My knee hurts whenever i sit/bend as well as when i try to straigten my leg (pushes my knee backwards). Any idea what could be the issue and how i can resolve it?
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2021.10.18 06:50 flyerfan1248 A few personal and obvious observations from the win earlier today.

That first half (2nd quarter specifically) was absolute ass and I don't want to talk about it. March ball down the field, only for another offensive interception going through Tyreek's hands. Same thing with Mahomes when he tried to do something in desperation to avoid a sack late in the half, and the WFT defender had the easiest pick of his life. Holy fuck, I lost my voice yelling at the TV during those 2 sequences not to mention Hardman fumbling the ball too. One of the worst halves overall we've played this year and it's hard to be much worse than that.

I dunno if Reid, Mahomes or Kelce or someone else said something during the half or what, but damn that 2nd half was cleaner than my car. Mahomes wasn't trying to play the hero, he made short, smart passes, we chewed up the clock, wore down their defense and put up 21 points (Yeah I know it's the WFT but still. They're better than other teams) in the half. Defense came to play today and I guess Sorenson didn't get burned 3 times and we held them to a season low in points. I don't expect us to finish 14-3 but if we can stick to the KC offense we know and love and not try to be fancy, I like our chances of at least either getting the division or a wild card spot. We don't need consistent 30-40 yard plays. I want to grind their defense down like we did and tire them out in the 2nd half.

I do want to see us run the ball more. Williams had an excellent game today and McKinnon had some nice plays as well. It'll keep the opposing defense honest, it'll extend our drives and give our defense more rest.

There's also no way our offense will continue to choke. Gordon is gonna gradually play more and more as he learns the playbook and I hope he has an Antonio Brown style resurgence like AB is having in Tampa, and our receivers are just too good and skilled to keep letting the ball slip through their fingers. Limit the turnovers from 3-4 a game to maybe a turnover every other game and all of a sudden things will be looking up. Mahomes is absolutely not throwing something like 20-21 interceptions this year as he's on pace for.
TL;DR: We sucked, made adjustments, and then didn't suck and we will not continue to shoot ourselves in the foot.
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2021.10.18 06:50 tikudz narrator submissions

Your name came up in a chat. Horror all you do?
The hardest - are unrelated stories.
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2021.10.18 06:50 pythonapster Saucony Men's Multi-Pack Mesh Ventilating Comfort Fit Performance No-Show Socks, Grey (12 Pairs), Shoe Size: 8-12 : Clothing, Shoes & Jewelry $13.24 at Amazon [Deal Price: $13.24]

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2021.10.18 06:50 IQgamerplayz69 I just found out this scroll is in Chinese not Japanese kanji. I want a Japanese room, so should I keep the scroll?

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2021.10.18 06:50 No-Arthurmix I do not speak Bad word

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2021.10.18 06:50 JiamGrymarch Fake Polls and Tabloid Coverage on Demand: The Dark Side of Sebastian Kurz (New York Times)

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2021.10.18 06:50 ____Maximus____ Mayhem mode or OP levels?

Mayhem Levels are one of the things I think BL3 has done better than BL2. Obviously, it has its problems, but I think OP levels are just boring and straight up too difficult
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